I'm a prideful, stubborn man. That's me. I've struggled mightily these last 18 months with my back hurt and not wanting to ask for help. I
want to, and sometimes I actually can do it, but most of the time I am just too stubborn and I can't do it.
And I have passed on my stubbornness. That is my legacy for my children. In certain instances, being stubborn is good. That is what gets work done especially when everybody around you is saying it can't be done. Stubbornness in that situation is good and necessary to get things changed. Sometimes, like when my back is acting up, it is bad.
Today, I took my kids to a play center and as I watched them, I realized I have passed on my stubbornness to my children. One of my kids was in one of the kiddie playgrounds. It is a huge affair surrounded with netting and having many
rooms that had other playthings in them. One was a trampoline, one had soft things from the ceiling, one had things to bounce on like a horse...and one had a slide. Not just a plastic slide, but something more flexible like silicone. My kid went down the slide then decided to go back up. Now this slide is slippery,
very slippery. He was in his socks and couldn't get a grip on it to climb. Other kids without socks could climb it, but those in socks just went around the proper way to get back on the slide. Here's where my stubbornness is. My kid refused to go around. I suggested to him that he go around, and he looked at me with this look in his eye...he looked like me and said
no
then he proceeded to claw his way up that slide. Other kids went up and down and up and down and up and down many times while he clawed his way to the top. This kid could not walk up it, so he grabbed the netting on the side and dragged his entire body up this slide. Every time he tried to walk, he'd slip, but
never let go of the netting until he finally made it to the top. He turned around, grinned at me and slid down again!
Now that was a good thing in my mind...he never gave up. We use words like
grit or
determination to describe that when it's good, but the reality is my kid is stubborn. Stubborn just like his Dad. That's my legacy. I hope he uses it for good!